Who are you without the people in your life?
Being alone allows the freedom to be introspective, to think for yourself. Often, we are swayed by the thoughts, feelings, attitudes, beliefs, and behavior of those we surround ourselves with. That also includes social media, those you follow on social media.
You, yourself are complete, you were born complete. No other existence was made for you, they were made for themselves, as you were made for you. No one can give you true happiness and love if you don’t find it within yourself first.
If you always depend on other people for attention, happiness, love or validation then you might often find yourself disappointed or feel as if something is missing. People are temporary, but the one that’s always going to be there is you, yourself. You already have everything you need inside of you.
Loneliness has very little to do with actually being alone. Feeling lonely is thinking you need someone to make your world brighter, or maybe to make your life worth living. Sometimes you even feel lonely when you are crowded by people, but it’s all in your mind.
Being alone however, is a very powerful experience. That’s the time you have no choice but to get to know your true self. It isn’t always pretty, a bad past might come and haunt you. But if you constantly bury your emotions or bad memories through people, alcohol, relationships or other ways rather then being alone, you won’t get rid of the problem itself, it will become worse until you learn how to deal with it, and the only way to learn is to get to know yourself, through solitude. That’s the only way to make peace with yourself, your past or the world.
It doesn’t even have to be a bad past, you might just be ”bored” by yourself. You might not even notice it yourself but if you always need people for the sake of not being ”bored or lonely” than that’s a form of using someone else’s existence just to make yourself feel good. Which will only last a few moments.
Experiencing solitude is therefore powerful, because it will heal old wounds and you will make peace with yourself. Being alone is taking the time to really think about what you want from someone the next time around, because you are going to do everything in your power that you never suffer from being lonely again. Being alone is sitting under a tree for an afternoon and reading a book, and enjoying every single minute of it. Being alone is doing things by yourself, but also doing them for yourself. Being alone can be the most empowering experience of your life. If you let the loneliness consume you, you’re going to lose that rare chance to figure yourself out. You can always find company in yourself. Loneliness is going to try to force you to find that company with another person. Everyone has a place in the world, though, and yours shouldn’t be inside someone else.
That’s why you should beware of those that seek constant crowds, because who are they when they are alone? Observe this question without judgement.
– ”Being alone is a state of being; loneliness is a state of mind.”
– ”Being alone provides an opportunity to wake up to the longing for true joy, heal old wounds, and understand the cycles that previously held us back.”
/ Natalia W ✨